Making that tough decision to emigrate or move far away is hard enough – but the struggle of emigrating and having to leave your Parents, Grandparents or other elderly relatives behind can be a gut-wrenching experience.
How do you deal with the guilt? Should you emigrate at all? How will you cope with a family split apart?
There can be myriad of reasons to emigrate:
- Job relocation
- Career Progression
- Different way of life
- Different climate
- Health reasons
Whatever the reason it certainly isn’t a decision that’s taken lightly. If you have elderly parents this move can be even harder, not to mention extremely stressful.
Why Is It So Hard On the Elderly?
Many people would argue that it’s just as gut wrenching to leave friends and siblings as it is elderly relatives. However the world we live in today is so much more accessible to the generation of today then it is to our Parents’ and Grandparents’ generation. Making the emigration leap doesn’t seem so isolating to those that regularly face time, chat and Skype. To the older generation a ‘chat group’ is something done over a pot of tea and a plate of sandwiches, not over a device.
What Are the Main Worries?
Building that unique relationship between Grandchild and Grandparent is something that’s a privilege and those that don’t get to experience it are most certainly losing out. The bond between old and young generations is unique and as equally precious, no matter what continent, you inhabit. When these ties are cut it can feel distressing and fearful that the bond will be severed forever.
Making It Easier
Help your Elders to come crashing into the 21st Century with the modern ways of communicating. You don’t have to hook them up with the latest iPhone costing a gazillion pounds but maybe get them a device that can facilitate Skype. Once they’ve got over the shock of seeing your face and their own (you know you’ve all been there) the instant live stream video phone will revolutionise catch up calls.
Set a plan for visits and if finances don’t allow for this then ensure that the weekly calls are carried out and not forgotten or missed.
Remember Who They Are To You
It’s an old chestnut but you really do only get one set of parents (if you’re lucky) and even luckier if you have Grandparents for yourself and your children. Remember all the things you did with your Grandparents when you were younger and all the stories, jokes, activities and knowledge they passed onto you. Amazingly, this doesn’t have to stop just because you’re in different time zones or even different parts of the same Country. With a screen and an internet connection, children can be read to, games can be played together and of course tales of old can still be retold.
Those Important Days
It’s vital to remember the important days like birthdays, anniversaries (of births and deaths). It’s a problem getting a gift for Grandparents abroad but not impossible. A Saronti family book features ALL the family (including the pets) and the fun, rhyming story can be enjoyed by everyone. The beauty of a book like this is that it can be enjoyed together over the internet and read to (or by) Grandchildren to Grandparents or vice versa. It’s the perfect gift for keeping the whole family together, even when they’re apart.
Emigration is a life changer and not just for the people emigrating. The people left behind can feel bereft and go through a type of grief for a while. Make it a wonderful start and not a sad end.
As Psychology today states:
But from the sublime to the mundane, the simple to the complicated, farewells are an inevitable part of life. They can be incredibly painful—but they don’t have to be devastating
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